What Therapy Didn’t Teach Me, Sisterhood Did

Therapy gave me the language.
But sisterhood gave me the echo.
It’s one thing to unpack your trauma in a quiet room with a licensed professional—it’s another to look across the circle, tears in your eyes, and realize someone else has lived that same pain.

Healing doesn’t always happen in isolation. Sometimes, it happens in community... soft, messy, divine community.

Don’t Get Me Wrong, Therapy Changed My Life

Let’s start here:
I’m not knocking therapy. In fact, I believe every woman of color should have access to culturally competent, trauma-informed, spiritually aligned therapy.

Therapy helped me:

Name patterns

Process childhood wounds

Understand my nervous system

Set boundaries with grace

It helped me understand myself.

But it couldn’t always help me see myself.

That’s where sisterhood came in.

The Healing Power of Women Who Get It

Sisterhood isn’t just brunch dates and matching robes at retreats.
Real sisterhood is sacred.
It’s crying without explaining.
It’s being held without asking.
It’s hearing, “Me too,” and feeling your shame start to loosen its grip.

Where therapy taught me coping tools, sisterhood reminded me I wasn’t alone in needing them.

 

What Therapy Couldn’t Teach Me, but Sisterhood Did:

1. You’re Not the Only One Who Hurts This Way

Therapy made me feel safe with myself.
Sisterhood made me feel safe in the world again.

There’s something about shared struggle, laughing and crying over the same mother wounds, dating stories, or body insecurities, that says:

“You’re not crazy. You’re human.”

2. Healing Can Be Soft… and Silly

Some healing doesn’t come in the form of worksheets.
It comes from 2 a.m. voice notes, inside jokes, and sitting together in silence.

Sisterhood lets you be undone and divine. Loud and loved. A hot mess and held.

3. You Deserve to Be Chosen… Without Performing

Therapy told me my worth isn’t tied to my productivity.
But sisterhood proved it… when I showed up late, messy, vulnerable, and still got “I love you. I’m glad you’re here.”

We all need a mirror that reflects our light when we forget it’s there.

Why Women of Color Especially Need This

We are the daughters of survival.
We were raised to be strong, silent, and self-sufficient.
But strength in isolation becomes suffering in silence.

Many of us weren’t taught how to receive support without guilt.
We weren’t modeled emotional safety with other women.
But that doesn’t mean we can’t learn.

In safe sisterhood, we practice:

Trust without fear

Love without comparison

Rest without apology

 

Where We’re Creating This Kind of Healing

At LNL Beauty Co., our workshops are more than creative experiences; they’re healing spaces.

We braid together art, affirmation, and faith into experiences that remind women:

✨ You belong
✨ You are not alone
✨ You’re allowed to heal out loud

In one room, we’ve seen women open up about beauty shame, body image, grief, and guilt—all while creating art with their hands and releasing what’s been trapped in their hearts.

Because this is what therapy doesn’t always teach you:

Sometimes, healing looks like holding each other through it.

Sis, If You’ve Been Healing Alone… You Don’t Have To Anymore

Come sit with us.
We’re laughing, crying, creating, unlearning, and becoming together.

🎨 Join a workshop that feels like soul therapy
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You don’t have to be perfect to be loved here.
You just have to show up!