Your Comeback Era: Finding Yourself Again in Your 30s
Feeling lost in your 30s? You’re not alone. Here’s how women of color can reclaim their confidence, identity, and joy through creativity, healing, and a whole lot of grace.
Let’s be real... 30s hit different
Somewhere between finishing school, surviving toxic work environments, dodging “When are you getting married?” at every family cookout, and binge-watching sermons and soft life TikToks… it happens.
You wake up one day and realize, “Who even am I right now?”
The confident, carefree woman you once imagined feels buried under responsibilities, comparison, and burnout you didn’t see coming.
Welcome to YOUR Comeback Era!
Why Confidence in Your 30s Feels So… Complicated
It’s not that you don’t believe in yourself, it’s that life keeps throwing curveballs. For women of color, especially, the pressure to be everything to everyone (perfect daughter, bad b****, spiritual but still fine, wife material, therapist to your friends, etc.) is exhausting.
And let’s not forget the mental gymnastics of:
Navigating corporate spaces where you’re often “the only one”
Managing trauma you just now realized wasn’t normal
Trying to find genuine friendships when everyone’s “busy”
Healing your inner child while your outer woman is still paying Sallie Mae
It’s not you. It’s life.
But here’s the good news: you’re not broken, you’re in a reset.
How to Rebuild Self-Confidence in Your 30s (Without Pretending to Have it All Together)
💅 1. Get Creative (Literally)
Therapeutic art isn’t about being “artsy.” It’s about healing through self-expression—messy, colorful, unapologetic self-expression!
Whether it's nail art, painting affirmations on mirrors, or journaling in glitter gel pens like you’re 13 again, creativity gives your inner girl a voice.
🖌️ Pro tip: Join one of our LNL Beauty Co workshops where beauty meets community! You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll leave with a new skills (yes, all of that!).
🙏🏾 2. Talk to God, But Be Real About It
Sis, you don’t have to be in your “strong independent woman” prayer posture 24/7.
Sometimes your prayer sounds like:
“God, I’m tired. Fix it, cause I don’t know what I’m doing.”
And that’s holy too.
Start with honesty. Confidence starts with authenticity. God can’t heal who you pretend to be.
💞 3. Reconnect with Women Who Get It
Your 30s are not the time for fake friends or “she’s just always been like that” energy. You need sisterhood that feels like rest.
Community that claps when you win and checks in when you don’t post for three days.
Look for spaces made for us! Where therapy, art, faith, and freedom exist in the same room.
(Psst... that’s literally why we created LNL Beauty Co.)
💡 4. Embrace the Power of Reinvention
Confidence doesn’t always look like bold red lips and loud declarations (though that’s cute too). Sometimes it looks like starting over quietly, with grace.
Cut your hair. Change your nails. Start a new skincare routine. Take yourself on a solo date. Forgive yourself for staying too long.
Start small—but START!!
😭 5. Feel It All, Then Flex Anyway
You’re allowed to feel sad about the detours, the heartbreaks, and the job that drained you. But you don’t have to live there.
Feel it. Write about it. Paint it. Pray through it.
Then get up, adjust your crown, and step into your next chapter—softly, boldly, joyfully.
👑 This Is Your Comeback Season.
Not the glow-up for Instagram.
Not the “I’m fine” mask for church or work.
The real, inside-out healing glow-up. The one that comes from choosing yourself every single day.
You don’t have to wait until everything’s perfect. Start where you are—with some nail polish, a mirror, and a whole lot of grace.
✨ Ready to Start Your Comeback Journey?
🎨 Join one of our therapeutic beauty + art workshops
💌 Or host a private healing event for your girls, your church, or your community.
We’re here to remind you:
You’re not behind.
You’re not too late.
You’re just getting started.